“WHEN YOU HAVE CHRONIC PELVIC PAIN”
You know its time for a change when doctors dismiss you with chronic pelvic pain (even documented chronic pelvic conditions) it amazes me the mess they create for woman already suffering debilitating chronic pelvic pain conditions, it often shows up in subtle and sometimes very “blatant ways”. Our chronic pelvic pain cant manage itself your doctors job is to listen fairly and with respect.
I can say I experience this right now, Im currently exploring other doctors it gets so tiring and expensive. But I have to fight hard to have my diagnosis’s taken seriously by a GP Doctor when I have and are doing all the work to reduce my pain as humanly as possible.
I have had similar patterns from dismissive doctors/specialists that want to minimise/dismiss my pain.
It’s “disgusting and indecent” so I compiled a list of how they do this so in future you will see the signs and run for the hills from these unprofessional dimwits!
Here are some common things doctors do when they’re dismissive:
Minimising or invalidating pain
• Saying “it’s just stress” or “everyone gets pelvic pain”. Blaming motherhood or other life stress is bad conduct.
• Suggesting it’s “in your head” rather than acknowledging the physical basis.
• Comparing your pain to other people as if to downplay it, comparison to other patients is again dismissive and bad conduct.
Blaming mental health
• Attributing pain solely to anxiety, depression, or trauma without investigating physical causes (ignoring documented physical evidence)
• Suggesting only therapy or antidepressants without addressing the condition itself.
Blaming lifestyle or family
• Implying you’d be fine if you just lost weight, exercised more, or relaxed.
• Saying family dynamics or relationships are the “real cause” of pain.
Avoiding responsibility
• Saying “there’s nothing more I can do for you” without offering referral to specialists.
• Ending appointments quickly or cutting you off mid-sentence.
• Repeatedly claiming tests are “normal” and using that to dismiss ongoing symptoms.
Using stigmatizing language
• Calling you “drug-seeking” or focusing more on your medications than your condition.
• Acting irritated about seeing you frequently.
• Suggesting you are “too complex” or “difficult.”
Withholding options
• Not mentioning available treatments or referrals to pain specialists, gynecologists, pelvic floor physios, or neurologists.
• Saying surgery or interventions aren’t “worth it” without explaining risks/benefits.
Shifting the blame onto you
• Suggesting you’re not “coping well enough.”
• Saying the doctor–patient relationship is “broken” rather than acknowledging their role.
• Claiming you aren’t listening when you’re simply advocating for yourself or telling you to just listen to them dismissing your reasons for coming in to see the doctor to discuss your symptoms.
If you have experienced anything written please consider where you stand with your doctor, understand your rights to be treated fairly – it’s important – dismissal is not okay in any shape or form and bad ethics and medical conduct.
Protect your energy and start the search for a new doctor. There are great medical professionals around who care.
Stay strong beautiful lady, you are important and so is your pain and need to be heard and be surrounded with positive guidance.
Cassie x 🩷
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