Loving Yourself Through Chronic Pelvic Pain: A Journey of Self-Worth

Loving Yourself Through Chronic Pelvic Pain: A Journey of Self-Worth

“Chronic pelvic pain changes your life, but it doesn’t define your worth. You are strong, deserving, and enough even on the hard days. Your value isn’t measured by how much you can do, but by who you are”.

Living with chronic pelvic pain is more than just a physical challenge it’s an emotional and mental one too. Pain that persists day after day can quietly erode away at your confidence, make you question your capabilities, and even make you feel unworthy of care, love, or happiness. But your pain does not define your worth. After years of heart ache, defeat from chronic pain, intrusive thoughts about my future self and always searching exhaustingly to find answers definitely becomes tiring and myself worth has taken hit after hit.

Understanding Self-Worth

Self-worth isn’t about what you can do or what you achieve Ive found it’s about recognizing that you deserve compassion, care, and love simply because you exist “your unique” and are human! Challenged by this invisible pain in many cases is terribly misunderstood and ignored. Those who support you during this journey make all the difference and empower your focus. Self worth also comes with a little nudge from your biggest fans family and friends but more importantly from yourself. Sharing gratitude to those who support you on your journey and believe in you and your not so easily seen pain are life savers shower them with love and kindness it’ll make you feel fabulous too.

The Daily Practice of Self-Love

Chronic pelvic pain can make the simplest tasks feel impossible or demanding, and it’s easy to feel like you’re failing, exhausted and too tired to keep up that fight. But struggling with pain doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human your in a collective of woman experiencing similar but individual Chronic Pelvic Pain your not alone on this journey.

The Importance of Compassion for Yourself

One of the hardest parts I have found living with chronic pain is the constant pressure to “keep up” with life while managing your body’s limitations. Self-compassion is an act of rebellion against that pressure. It’s telling yourself, “It’s okay to rest. It’s okay to ask for help. “My value isn’t measured by my productivity.” You can feel guilt but its normal to change your mind or give yourself compassion to stop if your pain overwhelms you and try then again

Small acts of self-love whether it’s taking a moment to breathe deeply, journaling your feelings, or treating yourself kindly or even a change of scenery can make a profound difference in how you feel about yourself.

“Pain has a way of making you question your worth! Some days chronic pelvic pain makes me question everything my strength, my worth, my place in the world. But I remind myself that my value isn’t measured by how much I get done or how well I hide the pain. I’m still me. Still worthy. Still enough even on the hard days”.

Reframing Identity Beyond Pain

It’s easy to let chronic pelvic pain define who you are. But you are more than your pain. You are a parent, a partner, a friend, a creator, a learner, a sister or simply getting by with small tasks. Chronic pain may shape your life, but it doesn’t shape your worth.

Finding ways to nurture your passions, whether that’s art, reading, therapy, writing, meditation, audible, study or creative projects, helps reclaim your identity outside of pain.

Celebrate the small victories and acknowledge the resilience it takes to navigate each day.

“Reward yourself with kindness or kind acts towards others you love, those who support you on your journey”.

Seeking Support

Self-worth grows when we allow ourselves to lean on others. Whether it’s medical professionals, therapists, friends, or support groups or social media groups relatable to your diagnosis (Ive joined many groups surrounding my painful conditions and hearing other story’s and truths has helped me a-lot, asking for help is not weakness it’s strength. Surround yourself with people who validate your experiences and uplift you, rather than diminish or doubt your pain.

Loving yourself while living with chronic pelvic pain is an individual practice as we all have our own way of dealing with chronic pelvic pain. Some days it’s easier than others, and that’s perfectly okay. Journaling, using affirmations (keep them on your phone for wall paper) using these positive affirmations will directly set your frame of mind up for a good dose of what you need to feel, saving quotes to your devices and printing them out for a mood board is helpful, gently moving your body when possible whether its a small treadmill walk/local street walk, gentle stretching exercises like yoga or pilates – suitable for your diagnosis and meditation on your headphones in a quiet space to visualise freedom of all things holding you back, prioritizing your rest during the day or even just acknowledging your pain without self judgment are all acts of self-love.

Self-worth can fade when you live in constant pain. But chronic pelvic pain doesn’t make you less, it reveals your strength, self-love and compassion.

“Reclaim your worth one day at a time”. 

Remember: your chronic pelvic pain may affect your body and mental health, but it does not diminish your value. You are worthy of kindness, love, care, support and happiness every single day keeping your mind open with gratitude for small feats queen, you are safe your important and amazingly strong!

Cassie x 🩵